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 THE IMPORTANCE OF SELF-ESTEEM | PART - 3 |

Good Day Everyone as you al know we are discussing about Self-Esteem a very Important Topic . In Part -3 of this Topic we are going to discuss How to Build a Support System that can help us in Building our Self-Esteem.

So Lets Start with our Topic.

BUILD A SUPPORT SYSTEM

Another Route to building Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem is to keep those who build you up-close and get rid of those bad influences in your Life, which you know bring you down. This can be a Tricky one, as sometimes bad influences come in the form of close friends or family members. To Figure out if there is something that needs attention in this category, you might consider sitting down and writing out a journal entry or some kind of list, which will help you closely consider your relationships and the influence they have on your life. 

• Who are your Best Friends?
• How do they make you feel?
• Do they Influence you toward unhealthy Habits?
• Who makes you feel Good, and who makes you feel bad?
• Is your Family Supportive?
• Do you keep close contact with those who build you up?

Pay Attention to how you will honestly answer these questions. Some of the answers might be difficult realizations, but this could be one of the most important steps you can take toward building yourself a new as a self-sustaining and more confident person.

Another thing to look for is whether or not you are actually leaning on a poor influence, whether it`s about money or emotional support. When we use others as a crutch, even if they are willing to offer support, we undermine our self-confidence in a big way.

Overtime, we begin to accept that we can`t do anything on our own, and this becomes ingrained in our psyches and manifests as insecurity. A lot of the time, we convince ourselves that we are actually more dependent on some source of support than we actually are just because it`s comfortable. 

Keeping in mind that there is a difference between using someone as a crutch and utilizing genuinely needed support, try to find a path toward Independence from whatever is holding you back. Perhaps you are holding on to an old romantic relationship with someone simply because you are afraid of being alone, or you are holding on to an old friendship that doesn`t really help you as a person and is actually intoxicating as an influence toward unhealthy ways of thinking or behavior. Whatever your situation it is up to you to improve it in order to progress toward your Goals of becoming a more confident and independent person.

Finally, once you`ve pinpointed your sources of self-esteem, take steps toward strengthening those relationships, which you know help build you up as a person. If you have friends who feel good to be around in a genuine healthy way, then put some effort into making time for them each week so that you can benefit from this positive influence.

Something that might help a lot is to have an open discussion with this friend or group of friends aboutwhat you are trying to do in your Life and how you want to work toward building self-esteem. These people are probably the ones who know you better than anyone else, so they may have some valuable input for you in terms of who they percieve you to be and what they feel are areas where you seem to struggle and which you may not have noticed before.

These Positive Relationships may be Family instead of Friends, or perhaps even your own partner who you haven`t had a lot of time for recently. When we make time to have genuine face-to-face interactions with the people who hold value in our lives, we get a lot more out of the experience than if we are constantly distracting ourselves alone or in groups with media and other things that keep the personal interactions from happening. This often turns into a safe place that chases away the anxiety of having to open up to other people, but it will lead to nowhere but isolation, loneliness and emptiness.

Truly Positive Relationships that help you build yourself up as a person are built on the foundation of being a safe, open, and honest place to talk about the things that are not so comfortable or happy or superficial.

People need to be able to talk about their problems and insecurities, so do you your best to get past that initial anxiety about upsetting the tranquil, superficial waters, and take risk with the ones you truly trust, love , and respect.

When this happens, you are likely to find that your friends, who are positive influence to you, or group of loved ones have the same craving as you and will appreciate the opportunity to open up a new outlet for interaction and relationship.

Spend sometime listening to the concerns and Problems of your Friends as well. Encourage a relationship where there`s free communication in a way that is nonjudgmental. We are struggling with something, so be as supportive to your friends as they have been for you. Relationships built on Trust will be a huge asset as you change certain things about your life in order to build Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem.